Power of Confidence: 7 Characteristics of a Confident Person
Confidence can take a life time to build, while taking only a moment or two to crumble into tiny bits. Depending on the life circumstances we are dealt with, having a confident demeanor can start very early in life; as young as toddlerhood.
Some of us had great parents who instilled positive values, which in turn made us believe we could become, do or be anything in life. Others did not, but perhaps found confidence later in life in other ways, such as through sports or by forging ahead in academics and within the workplace.
Confidence IS power, and vice versa. It has been studied and scientifically proven that confident people carry a different persona; one of poise, high self-worth, strong radars between right and wrong, and an ability to lead or convince others to follow.
People who are not confident are less likely to succeed, because they constantly second-guess their own ability to do things. They have excuses and often fall short of their own expectations, as well as failing to meet up to the perceived expectations of others. They may say things like,
- “I could never do that, because I didn’t receive any formal education.”
- “I’m not cut out for these things.”
- “My Dad never showed me how to do that when I was a kid.”
- “I’m not even going to try, because I know there will be a lot more qualified people applying than me.”
Listen, confidence is KNOWING. You must know you are good enough, without blaming anyone else (past, present or future) of your character faults. If you haven’t done something before, teach yourself how to do it. You can learn most anything these days just by doing an online search. Stop blaming your parents, your family, or your imperfect partner, or your kids, and most of all, yourself.
The power of confidence IS power. It is a knowing that no matter what you do, you will not fail. Here are 7 distinguishable characteristics of confident people:
- Poise – Standing up, walking with an attitude
- Eye contact – Never be afraid to look at people dead in the eyes, as it can put you in a position of power and knowing whether the person is truthful or not
- Firm – Staying true to yourself and not sacrificing your personal beliefs for another person
- Appearance – Confident people take pride in the way they look, including overall fitness, health and wellness. Looking good transcends to feeling good. Dressing nicely automatically makes you feel more confident.
- Tone – Confident people keep a level head. They have self-assurance; therefore they do not need to yell to get their point across.
- Stand up for others – Never talk badly about other people, because it can diminish or weaken your own confidence and self-esteem. Remember that it is the people who speak negatively about others who often feel the worst about themselves.
- Do what is right – Doing the “right” thing is not always easy, especially when outside pressures persist. Whenever you bend on someone else’s wishes and not uphold what you feel in your heart is the best action, step or course to take, and then your confidence level goes down. Never let another person control your destiny, you are in control of your own.
People who lack confidence have excuses, whereas people with confidence have ambition. With the power of confidence, you cannot fail.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
-Thomas A. Edison